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Curiosity & Caring

Hannah

There’s a sacredness to suffering that not everyone understands.

When someone is walking through the deep waters—when every breath feels borrowed and every day is held together by grace—questions can become sharp without ever meaning to be. Have they given you a timeline? What treatments are they trying next? How bad has it gotten? Have they told you when they expect you to die?

Some of those seem atrocious, but they are questions we have actually answered had to field at one time or another. Sometimes these questions slip out clothed as concern, but they land like cold hands on tender skin.

Curiosity is not the same as caring. Curiosity wants information. Caring wants presence. Curiosity circles around pain to peer inside. Caring steps into the shadows and sits down beside you. Curiosity tries to relieve its own unease. Caring is willing to feel uncomfortable just so you don’t feel alone.

I’ve learned there is a holy difference.

I don’t mind sharing pieces of my journey—there is beauty, even here, and God’s fingerprints are everywhere. But when the conversation turns to timelines for my dying or details of treatments that stretch my limits just to endure… that crosses into a territory my soul guards carefully. It’s not because I’m ashamed or afraid. It’s because this is holy ground for me and my family. We are living it, breathing it, praying through it. I am learning to trust God in the dark, and trust is fragile when handled carelessly.

What I welcome—what I desperately treasure—are those who choose presence over answers.

The ones who say, “I’m here.”

The ones who quietly hold space when the tears come.

The ones who don’t need to know the forecast of my future to love me faithfully in my present. The ones who walk with us without needing to understand every detail of the valley. This is the love that looks like Christ.

He never demanded explanations from the suffering. He didn’t ask the bleeding woman for her medical history or the blind man for an exact timeline of his decline. He simply came close. He touched. He healed. He stayed.

He showed us that compassion doesn’t interrogate—it accompanies.

And so we lean into the nearness of God and into the arms of those who reflect Him, the ones who simply show up. The ones who see us instead of studying us. The ones who offer presence instead of probing questions.

If you want to walk beside me, you don’t need to understand every piece of what’s happening. You don’t need updates or timelines. You don’t need the painful details.

You just need a willing heart and a steady step.

Sit with me. Pray with me. Laugh with me. Hold hope with me when I’m tired. Remind me that God is still good, still here, still leading us home.

Curiosity might reach for facts, but caring reaches for hands.

And in this season, hands—and hearts—are what hold me up.

Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving Update

Hannah

I knew this Thanksgiving wouldn’t look quite like the ones we’ve tucked into memory. The calendar had to shift to fit kids’ work schedules and scattered availability. I had to recruit a backup cook because my strength simply couldn’t stretch far enough to carry a full Thanksgiving meal this year. And my husband had to bow out entirely when he scheduled a double knee replacement just days before the holiday.

Yet somehow, none of that made the week dull. I still managed to lock the keys in the car, faint while helping my husband and earn myself an ambulance ride—and a fresh set of stitches. And in true last-minute fashion, I found myself stepping in for friends and running the 8:30 a.m. Turkey Trot in thirty degree weather on Thanksgiving morning.

But today has been its own kind of glory—bundled in the cold, then thawing out in a warm, cozy house filled with the people I love. MarioKart championships, board games scattered across the table, quiet naps under soft blankets. It has been simple, chaotic, and beautiful.

I have more to be thankful for than words can hold. And as I count the blessings I can see—and the many I can’t—I’m lifting my gratitude upward. I pray you’re doing the same today, giving thanks to the One who fills our lives with mercies new every morning and goodness we could never deserve.

Happy Thanksgiving, friends. May your hearts be full and your eyes open to every grace He has poured out.

Uncategorized, Friendship

The Seasons of Staying

Hannah

Being a friend of someone with terminal illness must be quite the roller coaster. I’ve had the privilege a few times, but never for so long a stretch of time as my illness has asked of my tribe. That in itself is a beautiful gift, but the cost of it is also not lost on me.

Being a friend of someone with terminal illness must be quite the roller coaster. I’ve had the privilege a few times, but never so long a stretch of time as my illness has asked of my tribe. That in itself is a beautiful gift, but the cost of it is also not lost on me.

There’s something both sacred and sorrowful about watching friendships move through the seasons when you are the one who is dying. In the beginning, the circle is wide — full of love and meals, visits and prayers, the kind of tender urgency that comes when people don’t yet know what to do but feel compelled to do something. It’s a holy flood of kindness, and it humbles you to your core.

But time, as it does, stretches. Months turn into years, and the edges of the circle shift. Some friends drift quietly into the background, not because they stopped caring, but because life resumes its relentless rhythm. Kids grow, careers change, and the crisis that once felt immediate now lives in the quieter corners of their awareness.

And honestly? I get it. I’ve been that friend before too — before this diagnosis rewrote my sense of time. I’ve meant to reach out and didn’t. I’ve avoided pain I didn’t know how to face. I’ve loved someone deeply and still failed to show up in the way I wish I had. So I hold that understanding now with open hands and no resentment, just a bittersweet ache that love sometimes outlasts proximity.

What’s left are the ones who stay through the long middle — not just the early crisis or the final goodbye, but the drawn-out, unpredictable middle where the reality of terminal illness stops being dramatic and just becomes life. They sit with me in the mundane. They ask the unglamorous questions. They know when to come close and when to give space. They’ve learned that faithfulness doesn’t always look like constant presence, but steady presence.

And then, there are those who come back — friends who circle in again after time away, sometimes awkwardly, often tenderly. Their return feels like mercy. It reminds me that love isn’t linear; it’s tidal. People ebb and flow in and out of each other’s lives, and that movement, too, can be grace.

I used to think loyalty meant never leaving. Now I think it means being willing to return.

So to my friends — those who have stayed, drifted, returned, or simply remembered me from afar — please know this: your love has carried me. Every text, every silence, every prayer whispered when you didn’t know what to say has mattered.

Illness has taught me that friendship isn’t measured in constant nearness but in the threads of care that remain, even when time and distance stretch them thin.

If I could sum it up, I’d say this: the seasons of friendship are not a sign of failure, but of humanity. And what a fragile, beautiful, sacred thing it is to be human together — even in the shadow of goodbye.

One of my all time favorite reads!

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The Dusty Stethescope

Hannah

Sleep evaded me again last night.

I reached for distraction—scrolling through ideas for Christmas gifts for my people. When I searched for something for my young STNA/up-and-coming physician, I stumbled upon a site selling the most beautiful stethoscopes I’d ever seen.

Colors like jewels.

Patterns like joy.

One in particular caught my eye—a swirl of pink animal print and sharp, gleaming purple— shining with all things girlish and lovely. And for a brief flicker, right before unconscious thought becomes awareness, I mused, “this is the one I’ll ask for next time.”

But then—

my heart caught up to my body.

And I remembered where I was sitting: in my hospital bed at home, a ventilator mask pressed against my face, small plastic cups of pills lined neatly beside me, guarding against the next wave of breathless panic.

In the thick, holy silence of 2 a.m., I swear I heard the sound of my own heart dropping back into the deep, heavy truth of reality.

I will not be needing a new stethoscope.

Not now, not ever.

No more pressing the cool bell to a grandmother’s arm, listening for the soft rhythm of life beneath her paper-thin skin.

No more playing peekaboo with wide-eyed children, pretending it’s a game while I listen carefully to the music of their lungs.

Those days—those glory days—hang preserved behind glass, my green stethoscope draped like a memory across the frame. The strength that once carried me into the chaos of sirens and smoke has long since ebbed away, leaving behind a body most people only know in its fragility, not its former fire.

Suffering has a way of testing what our hearts truly believe.

It presses heat against the places where we’ve built our sense of strength.

And when suffering comes for the strong, it is often met with anger—

not at the pain itself, but at the theft of power.

On my hardest days, I don’t find myself begging for suffering to stop.

I find myself begging for strength to return.

That’s the honest prayer.

Not fewer storms—just stronger arms to stand in them.

And yet, even that desire reveals how frail my own strength really is.

Paul puts it even more vividly;

“We always carry around in our body the death of Jesus, so that the life of Jesus may also be revealed in our body.” (2 Corinthians 4:10)

We love strength.

We polish it, parade it, protect it.

And when it’s gone, we question the goodness of God.

But I am learning—slowly, painfully—that the taking of strength is grace.

Grace that empties my hands of what I thought I needed,

so that I might cling more tightly to Jesus.

Now, as I face this new season of weakness,

with tiny bursts of ability to go and do,

I ask myself: how will I use this small strength?

I’ve been praying—for hunger on my well days.

For Scripture to taste sweeter.

For my heart to grow restless for the things of God.

For apathy to break, for grace to deepen.

And when suffering returns—as it will—

may my heart be ready to receive it.

To whisper, thank you, Jesus, for entrusting me with this new hard.

Help me be faithful in it.

Help me reflect your goodness in the ache.

Let me be a mirror of grace—

a witness to the beauty that lives

in the losing of strength,

and the finding of You.

faith

When a Voice Falls Silent: A Call to Courage

Hannah

There are a lot of voices right now. A deafening amount of opinions and points of view. Sometimes it’s difficult to know whether speaking is warranted, or if it will just add to the noise. One thing I know though, is that in the face of devastation, hope is a needed voice to hear.

What happens when a prominent voice for truth is suddenly silenced? When someone who stood boldly, unashamed of the gospel, and unwilling to compromise, is snatched away from us? The temptation is fear. Fear that if they can be taken down, then what about us? Fear that darkness is stronger than light. Fear that speaking up will cost too much.

The missionary Paul reminds us otherwise:

“…I will not be put to shame in anything, but that with all boldness, Christ will even now, as always, be exalted in my body, whether by life or by death. For to me, to live is Christ, and to die is gain.”
‭‭Philippians‬ ‭1‬:‭20-21

This is not the end. Death does not have the final word. Every voice that is silenced here will one day be awakened at the sound of His voice. Every injustice will be answered. Every act of courage will be remembered before the throne of God.

So what do we do if a voice for truth falls silent?

We do not shrink back. We do not hide in fear. We step forward. We take up the torch that has been handed to us. We keep talking, keep living, keep shining. Because the mission was never about one person’s voice alone — it is about God’s truth resounding through His people. (John 5:28-29)

The darker the world gets, the more every flicker of light matters. The more every word of courage echoes. The more every act of faith shines.

Let us not be silent. Let us not cower. Let us not let darkness have the last word. Instead, let us outshine it. Because one day, the tombs will open, the righteous will rise, and the Judge of all the earth will make everything right.

Until then, we keep speaking. We keep living with courage. We keep letting the light shine.

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The Scar That Stays

Hannah

Today is a scar.

No matter how many years stretch between then and now, July 14th will never pass unnoticed. It pulses quietly beneath the surface all year long, and when it comes, it breaks open again—not as a wound, but as a scar that still aches.

The day my daughter died marked my life in a way that changed everything. There was a before, and there is an after. And though time has moved forward, this day remains. It always will.

Scars are proof of both injury and healing. They say, “Something happened here. Something was torn open, but it didn’t destroy you.” That’s what this day feels like—evidence that something was lost that mattered so deeply, it will never be forgotten. This scar tells a story of love, of longing, of holding on and letting go. It reminds me that grief isn’t a lack of faith—it’s an expression of it. I grieve because I loved, and I still do.

There is comfort in knowing that even Jesus kept His scars. He could have been raised from the dead in flawless perfection, unmarred by crucifixion. But the Father chose to leave the marks. The holes in His hands and side weren’t oversights. They were signs—of suffering, yes, but also of victory. They tell the story of a love so vast it entered into death to bring us life.

Those scars helped Thomas believe. They helped the disciples recognize Him. And they help me, too.

Because if Jesus can carry His scars into glory, so can I.

So can this day.

The pain of this anniversary is real. It isn’t erased by time, or even by the hope I have in Christ. But it is held. Redeemed. It has a place in the larger story God is telling—one in which death is not the end, and scars can become signs of resurrection.

So today, I sit with the ache. I trace the edges of the memory. I let the tears come, because they matter. But I do not grieve as one without hope. I know the One who holds my daughter now. I know He is good. And I know that one day, every tear will be wiped away.

Until then, I carry this scar—not as a symbol of defeat, but as a quiet testimony:

Love lived here.

Hope lives still.

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Even Here

Hannah

I decided today was shower day. With a broken wrist and low energy, some days are arranged to be less involved than a whole shower, but today it was time for the real thing.

Sitting on my chair in the shower I made a mental note to myself, “figure out how to get pumps for my shampoo and conditioner bottles; it’s getting hard for my hands to squeeze anything out of them.” I didn’t realize I had bigger problems than that.

As I finished up washing and reached up to scrunch the water out of my hair with my good hand, my arm banged back down onto my lap. I tried twice more, but couldn’t lift my arm high enough to squeeze the water from my hair. I decided to just dry off and deal with it outside the shower. Then came the realization that neither could I reach for my towel to dry off. I sat in the shower, dripping wet, unable to do anything for myself, and something broke inside.

Fortunately my husband was close enough by to hear my raspy call for help, and he came to my aid. As he did for me what I had done for myself for at least the past 37 years, tears mixed with the shower water that dripped down my face. “It’s not fair,” I croaked.

The words felt both childish and truer than anything I’d said all week.

This wasn’t how it was supposed to be. I wasn’t supposed to need help with something as basic as drying off. I wasn’t supposed to be this tired, this fragile, this dependent. And maybe most of all, I wasn’t supposed to feel so small—so cracked open by something as simple as a shower.

But there in the tension between frustration and fatigue, my heart whispered what my mouth could not: “Even here, Lord?”

Even here, when my wrist is broken, my body is weak, and my heart is weary?

Even here, when I don’t recognize this version of myself?

Even here, when I feel like more of a burden than a blessing?

And somehow, though He didn’t speak aloud, I felt the answer settle in deeper than my bones: Yes. Even here.

Even here, He is present.

Even here, He is faithful.

Even here, He is not confused about my story.

It’s one thing to trust God when everything makes sense—when my strength is intact, when my routines are predictable, and my body does what I ask of it. It’s another thing entirely to trust Him when nothing is working and I’m wrapped in a towel I couldn’t even reach on my own. It is a hard-fought trust that doesn’t come naturally.

But I’m learning that this is a holy place too.

Not polished. Not powerful. Just painfully human—and held.

There is a strange kind of worship that happens when we let God meet us in our brokenness without pretending we’re fine. When we let the tears fall and still say, “I trust You anyway.” When we acknowledge the ache and still choose to believe He’s working all things for our good.

I don’t understand all He’s doing. I don’t love the limitations. But I know the One who has never wasted pain, never abandoned His people, and never made a mistake. And if He’s allowing this part of the story, then somehow—even this—is being woven into something eternal.

So today, in a soaked towel and salty tears, I’m offering Him what I have: my honesty, my surrender, my broken trust trying to be whole.

Because even here, He is worthy.

Even here, He is good.

And even here, I still believe He knows exactly what He’s doing.

grief

Bingo, Ice Cream, and the Bitter Gift of Missing Out

Hannah

For several weeks I have been looking forward to this past Sunday. It was a chance to not only go to church in the morning, but then in the evening it was our quarterly meeting plus Ice cream and bingo, and I was excited to see so many of my people. And then MSA.

It didn’t take long to recognize that I was going to have to choose wisely what to use my energy on that day. Pain has been searing out of control more often than not lately, and Sunday morning there was no reprieve. I decided I had a better chance of making it Sunday night if I stayed at home and watched the morning service online, which I did, and then rested throughout the day.

As afternoon faded into evening however, it became clear that my body was not going to tolerate a car ride or anything else. The plans I had so carefully paced myself for began to crumble before my eyes. And with that, came the sting of disappointment—sharp and real.

I wish I could say I shrugged it off with grace, that I whispered a quick prayer and moved on. But instead, I wrestled with it. I grieved the loss of what felt like a lifeline that day. I missed my people. I missed being in the room, surrounded by familiar laughter and shared stories and the simple joy of ice cream and bingo. I missed being seen.

That’s the thing about disappointment—it sneaks in and tries to convince you that you’re forgotten. That everyone else is moving on without you. That your suffering sets you apart in the worst way.

But here’s where faith steps in and steadies the soul.

God doesn’t minimize our losses, and He doesn’t rush us through our grief. He meets us right in the ache. As I sat alone in my living room that night, I remembered the One who never misses a moment. The One who knew I would be here, again. The One who catches every tear and counts every pain-ridden hour as precious.

Crushing disappointment doesn’t get the final word. Not when we serve a God who promises beauty for ashes and joy in the morning. Not when He reminds us that He is our portion, not a perfect evening, not our best-laid plans. Him.

So, I went to bed that night not having seen the people I love, not having laughed over silly bingo cards, not having been part of the fellowship I was so looking forward to. But I went to bed held. Known. Carried. And even in the disappointment, maybe especially there, I was not alone.

And that’s enough.

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The Heartbreaking Road Home

Hannah

Not long ago a friend posted something with this quote: “You can’t’ protect your child from their testimony.” Boy did that hit me like a ton of bricks.

As parents, we often carry a silent hope that our children’s lives will be smooth, their paths straight, and their hearts unbroken. We pray for their protection, guidance, and joy. But buried in that desire—however noble—is often the unspoken wish that they never have to walk through darkness. We long to shield them from pain, from failure, from regret. And yet, we forget: testimony is not born in safety. It’s born in the fire.

That line echoes like truth wrapped in heartbreak. Because if you’ve parented long enough, you know: you can’t control the path your child walks. You can guide, you can pray, you can love—but you cannot write their story for them. And sometimes, their testimony includes things you never would have chosen. The very moments you feared—addiction, rebellion, heartbreak, wandering far from faith—may become the places where Jesus meets them most deeply. How easily I forget that this is exactly where Jesus met me in my own life; why would he not do the same for my children?

And that’s where surrender comes in. Real surrender. Not the kind that says, “Lord, keep them safe and comfortable,” but the kind that says, “Lord, whatever it takes.”

Because if their knees hitting the floor is what it takes for them to run to Him, then let it be.

This doesn’t mean we stop parenting or stop praying. It means we stop trying to be their Savior. We trust the One who made them, who knows their every thought, who sees the beginning and the end. We release them into the hands of a God who loves them far more than we do.

It’s not easy to watch your child walk through fire. It’s not easy to hear pieces of their story that break your heart. But it’s necessary sometimes. For them to know grace, they may have to meet the edge of their own strength. For them to recognize light, they may have to sit in some darkness. And for them to know the realness of God, they may have to discover how empty everything else truly is.

So to the parent who is watching a child wander, who is grieving the turns their life has taken, who is praying with trembling hands: take heart. Their story isn’t over. And God’s mercy runs deeper than any pit they may fall into.

Your child’s testimony may not look like the one you hoped for. But it might just be the one that leads them home.

Let go. Trust God. And remember: even the prodigal was still a son.

suffering

Today

Hannah

Head throbs,

Spasms pulse.

Nausea ebbs and flows in great waves,

Pain spins up to 8 and then ticks back down to 4.

My mind fights my body with its will to get up and participate, move, live.

The weight of fatigue grips my limbs like wet sand,

Every breath a labor, every step a gamble.

The world outside carries on, brightly unaware,

While I drift beneath its surface, unseen currents pulling.

Hope is not always loud.

Sometimes it whispers in the quiet:

a hand held,

a laugh shared,

the sun warming my windowpane.

There are days I curse this vessel,

days I retreat into silence and salt,

but also moments—sharp and golden—

where love slices through the fog.

I do not vanish all at once.

I am still here:

in the tremor of my voice,

in the stories I still tell,

in the soft rebellion of surviving today.